Breaking up with a loved one or going through a rough patch in ones relationship with a potential soul mate can be devastating and horrible on your mental and physical health. However one of the ways to fix this is to simply get back with them or to at least come to be on good terms and be friendly with one another. However there are some steps you should take to ensure that you are ready to do this in your life and not mess up things further for you or for them. It may make your life better or it may make your life worse, you must consider all options.
Regardless of your situation before the relationship went sour or you broke up, there are some proven methods to solving this problem and making your life happier and regret less. However keep some things in mind first as you go about your business.
1. Do not be a pathetic loser who crawls back on their hands and knees to the stronger one. You want to have the upper hand and not be cowering and desperately seeking resolution to the conflict that arose. If you NEED this resolution, then its not time for you to go back and try to solve it as you can’t fix something when you yourself are not fixed. Crawling back can make you look pathetic and make the person less likely to find you a better person, they simply may take pity on you which is not how you want to live.
2. You must first find peace with yourself in order to find peace with the relationship. If you aren’t in a good mood or you cannot find contentment in your life as it is, you should consider waiting or finding something to distract you before you go back to the person to reconcile things. We all can’t be who we want to be, but we can be good people and be content with how things are, once you accept that you will be ready to go back.
3. Accept the fact that it may not work out. This is why step 1 and 2 are so important, if it comes down to it and your past friend or lover refuses to have anything to do with you, you must accept this and move on. It makes it a lot easier to accept this when your life is already in order and you do not NEED this person in your life to be happy, it would simply improve an already content and fulfilled existence.
4. Come up with a plan, think things through. You need to have a game plan for a number of things, how to approach the person. Try being in their shoes for awhile, think hard about what happened between you, and whether or not the other person is able to accept who you are now and the relationship you want to have with them.
5. Be sure that you yourself are ready. You can’t expect things to work between a happy person and a sad person, as one will always drag the other down, so make sure that first you are not going to be the sad person who makes this fail again, be the happy person.
